What this means is that you can be more direct and up-front with your own intentions and desires.
For example, if there’s a lot of sexual tension and you want to bring her back to your place to get physical, you don’t need some cover like “let’s go back to my place and watch a movie”.
Given that we didn’t suckle at that digital teat so early on like Millennials, we’re not going to live and die by whether we change our relationship status. Get this: I’m not even FB friends with the guy I’m currently seeing. I did get a glimpse of his page when he left it open one day, and I did take a gander at his ex, but I found it so stressful that I closed out of it immediately. If she’s gotten this far on her own, regardless of whatever relationships are behind her, she’s been through enough ups and downs to know she can handle just about anything.
A friend of mine dated a 40-year-old woman when he was 22 and new to New York.“She picked the restaurants, paid for things, took me places.They want strong, powerful men and you’ve got to show her you’re that kind of man – who just happens to be a bit younger. You can start with strong, confident body language and eye contact.Stand up straight and keep your movements controlled and purposeful (avoid fidgeting).Dating an older woman is quite the rage these days.
As a woman over 35, I’ve never felt more desired by men in their late 20s and early 30s than I do now—moreso even than when I was that age. Pay no attention to the ol’ elbow-jabbing, wink-wink idea that cougars* are “more likely to put out and pay for everything.” Meh, that may be a reason a naïve man attempts to score with an older lady, but it’s hardly the reason a smart man enters a relationship with one.
So if you’re only seeking women in the 21-29 age range, let me tell you, you’re missing out. And by that I mean: her own career, her own friends, her own apartment, her own money.
A 30-year-old man from Brooklyn told me these factors are what makes older women a turn on. If she hasn’t tried it herself, she’s likely considered it.
When you make eye contact, show confidence by holding her gaze (let her look away first).
This combination of confident body language and eye contact will get her to see that you’re the kind of powerful, self-assured man older women like.
Should you automatically go dutch or expect her to pay? In fact, you want to impress someone, treat a lady with some bank to a nice meal, because she appreciates exactly how much it costs. So when you take her out with your friends or coworkers, be it to a wedding or work event, you don’t have to worry she’ll perish without your constant attention. Since she’s got a little life on her (and maybe even a marriage in her past), she may not have the rigid checklist that a younger girl has.